Everyone wants to be happy. You probably look around at people who seem full of life and so happy and you wonder how do they do it and what’s wrong with you.
You’re the only one who can make the change! Remember the 11 truths about happiness:
1. Happiness is a choice.
Even if you feel that you are going through rough times and there’s no way to be happy, you should know that even the people who seem very happy now have also passed through challenging times at some point in their life. In their case, the attitude is the key. Often, reality can’t be changed. The best thing you can do is to simply accept it. People who do this naturally are usually happier. Choose to experience these hard times bravely and see these obstacles as opportunities which help you evolve, not as enemies. If you choose to look at things differently, everything that now seems difficult will become very easy.
2. Happiness begins with gratitude.
Be grateful for what you have. Whenever you feel sad or displeased with something, remember the things you are grateful for: family, close friends that stand by you, health, activities you can enjoy. You’ll immediately feel better. When you focus on what you have, you’ll no longer be so concerned about what you don’t have. Make it a daily habit, not just when you’re going through hard times.
The help you offer others, charity, volunteering – all these bring you more happiness that lasts and improves your self-esteem.
4. Happiness is contagious.
It’s very hard to be pessimistic when you are surrounded by optimistic people. Whenever you feel sad, don’t isolate yourself. Surround yourself with positive, optimistic people. They will help you see the bright side of things, when you no longer can. Suffering loves company, so beware. It’s very easy to find people in the same situation as you and get stuck in the same mind state. Avoid doing this and continue to surround yourself with positive people!
5. Nobody, except you, can make you happy.
Although it is easier to put your happiness in someone else’s hands, to solve the problems for you, this won’t help you on the long-term. You only need to be able to see the beauty of life even in difficult times. It is an attitude which you can create every day, within yourself. Trust yourself and see all the good things that surround you!
6. No regrets!
Statistics say that there are some major regrets that people have in times of personal stock-taking. “I wish I could have: worked less, stayed true to myself, had the courage to express my feelings, kept in touch with my friends, allowed myself to be happy.” And because time is irreversible, don’t join the ones with regrets. There are simple things that will free you from future regrets and let you enjoy the present.
7. Take care of your body!
If you experience any unpleasant state of mind, leave the house and play any sports. Sport is very effective in keeping you in a good mood. It releases the hormones of happiness that will instantly improve your well-being. Any activity is welcome. Whether you ride a bike in the park, go swimming, go to the gym or just take a walk outdoors, it is important to be active and manage to free your mind of the problems that worry you.
8. Fundamental things remain fundamental.
Eat and sleep. Respect your rhythm and feed your body with fresh and healthy food, and sleep for at least 6 hours. After a sleepless night you will be blue in the morning, and therefore the whole day. You can’t cheat when it comes to sleep, because fatigue is a short way to irritation, not happiness.
9. Laughter is the best medicine!
If you’re having a bad day, do the things you enjoy most and make you smile. Whether you watch a comedy movie, you meet a really funny friend or read funny things on the internet, it’s important for you to laugh. This way, you will escape the bad mood and let go of the day’s sorrows.
When you become aware of the situations that affect your well-being, it is easier to detach and see the beauty that surrounds you. Allow yourself a moment of peace and quiet in which you can talk to yourself, so that you can see what bothered you and what you did wrong. This way, you will identify the problem, whether it was your fault or someone else’s and therefore, you will be able to solve it. Avoiding these unpleasant states of mind is not a solution. So, identify them and accept them, and try to find a solution! Happiness is possible when you accept yourself and the fact that you can’t control everything all the time.
11. Frequency beats intensity.
Small but frequent moments of joy are the key to great success and happiness. Winning the lottery won’t bring you happiness, but simple and unexpected gifts from colleagues, surprises, wise words at the right time and so on. If you want to be happy, then you should start building this state of mind piece by piece.
In conclusion, remember that happiness is your natural state and that it’s a way of travel, not a destination.